When a child shuts down his painful emotional side, he also loses the ability to express his joyous side. Emotions are a whole. With anger comes the ability to express delight; with sadness comes the ability to express lightheartedness. This is the breadth of emotion that allows an adult to experience intimacy with a spouse, with God, and with his children

The extent to which two people in a relationship can bring up and resolve issues is a critical marker of the soundness of a relationship.

If you want to become healthy, you have to surround yourself with a group of people that are getting healthy and you have to be connected to a community that is doing what you want to do.

A good test of a relationship is how a person responds to the word 'no.' Love respects 'no,' control does not.

The idea of submission is never meant to allow someone to overstep another's boundaries. Submission only has meaning in the context of boundaries, for boundaries promote self-control and freedom. If a wife is not free and in control of herself, she is not submitting anyway. She is a slave subject to a slave driver, and she is out of the will of God.

People tend to look at dating sort of like a safari - like they're trying to land the trophy.

Leadership is not taken, it is given. People give leadership to those that they trust. They allow people that they trust to have influence over their lives.