If you continue to blame other people for โmakingโ you feel guilty, they still have power over you, and you are saying that you will only feel good when they stop doing that. You are giving them control over your life. Stop blaming other people.
Henry CloudThe Bible is clear about two principles: (1) We always need to forgive, but (2) we donโt always achieve reconciliation. Forgiveness is something that we do in our hearts; we release someone from a debt that they owe us. We write off the personโs debt, and she no longer owes us. We no longer condemn her. She is clean. Only one party is needed for forgiveness: me. The person who owes me a debt does not have to ask my forgiveness. It is a work of grace in my heart.
Henry CloudGood pain is pain in the service of a purpose. Bad pain is pain endured because we are resisting a needed growth step.
Henry Cloud