Boundaries are basically about providing structure, and structure is essential in building anything that thrives.

For someone's character to grow, it has to be free from internal attack. Falling down never stopped children from developing. But getting yelled at, criticized, and put down can stop them for life.

The Bible is clear about two principles: (1) We always need to forgive, but (2) we don’t always achieve reconciliation. Forgiveness is something that we do in our hearts; we release someone from a debt that they owe us. We write off the person’s debt, and she no longer owes us. We no longer condemn her. She is clean. Only one party is needed for forgiveness: me. The person who owes me a debt does not have to ask my forgiveness. It is a work of grace in my heart.

The extent to which two people in a relationship can bring up and resolve issues is a critical marker of the soundness of a relationship.

You will not grow without attempting to do things you are unable to do.

Leave your pride, ego, and narcissism somewhere else. Reactions from those parts of you will reinforce your children's most primitive fears.

Dating is about finding out who you are and who others are. If you show up in a masquerade outfit, neither is going to happen.