Boundaries are basically about providing structure, and structure is essential in building anything that thrives.

The opposite of bad is not good.The opposite of bad is love

Don't go overboard in praising required behavior: 'We have only done our duty' (Luke 17:10). But do go overboard when your child confesses the truth, repents honestly, takes chances, and loves openly. Praise the developing character in your child as it emerges in active, loving, responsible behavior.

Endings are a part of life, and we are actually wired to execute them. But because of trauma, developmental failures, and other reasons, we shy away from the steps that could open up whole new worlds of development and growth.

Just as we leave the effects of our work behind in results, we leave the effects of our interactions with people in their hearts, minds, and souls.

Good pain is pain in the service of a purpose. Bad pain is pain endured because we are resisting a needed growth step.

Anger is frustration at the fact that we are not God, and do not have control over reality.