Boundaries are basically about providing structure, and structure is essential in building anything that thrives.

Who a person is will ultimately determine if their brains, talents, competencies, energy, effort, deal-making abilities, and opportunities will succeed.

When we begin to set boundaries with people we love, a really hard thing happens: they hurt. They may feel a hole where you used to plug up their aloneness, their disorganization, or their financial irresponsibility. Whatever it is, they will feel a loss. If you love them, this will be difficult for you to watch. But, when you are dealing with someone who is hurting, remember that your boundaries are both necessary for you and helpful for them. If you have been enabling them to be irresponsible, your limit setting may nudge them toward responsibility.

Good pain is pain in the service of a purpose. Bad pain is pain endured because we are resisting a needed growth step.

To get greater than 100% return on a growth step, give up defensiveness. Defensiveness stifles performance, and destroys relationships.

A leader's responsibility is to cause a vision and mission to have tangible results in the real world.

Spouses in healthy relationships cherish each other's space and are champions of each other's causes.