Fun has to do with habitual activities but then also terrifically novel or unusual ones. It works as a sort of strange milkshake of those concepts.

When we use this word fun, it sort of bangs up the ordinary and the extraordinary altogether.

The idea of thinking of our relationships with people as also being structured by limitations and constraints can be useful.

There are personality traits, or baggage from their backgrounds, goals that they have and the first thing I need to do is understand and then acknowledge and then accept those properties. That's kind of the baseline requirement to have a productive relationship.

We don't like to think of ourselves as subject to the forces of the world, we like to think of ourselves as exerting that force.

The modern world is very wealthy, it's full of options. It's not like "This is the land I was born on and I have to make the most of it, and these are the people who are near me, and so they will become my family."

For me, what fun means is finding novelty in the suffocating familiarity of ordinary life.