I think the most important thing to realize about play is that it's this thing that's in stuff, it's not in you.

Play becomes a distraction, something you don't really need to do. It's not for serious people. They work hard, they don't play hard. Yes, you can say play hard, but that really means, keep working hard, right?

Any phrase that suggests play is this domain that's the opposite of work, or the thing that you do when you're done working, should trouble us. Because it means that play is always relegated to the exhaust of life. It's the thing that you do after you do the important stuff, it's what you do on your own time.

You allow yourself to discover the things that are already there when you play.

To me, being able to find gratification in more venues, rather than greater gratification in a few, seems like a much more sane way of living.

My wife, there's certain kinds of housework that she just doesn't see as necessary to do in the way that I do. Things like the state of our closet or where things are in the kitchen. I have this almost unhealthily obsessive desire to have things in their place and she just totally doesn't. And this is a potential point of conflict, of course.

We don't like to think of ourselves as subject to the forces of the world, we like to think of ourselves as exerting that force.