I think the most important thing to realize about play is that it's this thing that's in stuff, it's not in you.

The idea of thinking of our relationships with people as also being structured by limitations and constraints can be useful.

When we use this word fun, it sort of bangs up the ordinary and the extraordinary altogether.

Play is this process of operating the world, of manipulating things. It's related to experimentation, and it's related to pleasure, but not defined by it.

The modern world is very wealthy, it's full of options. It's not like "This is the land I was born on and I have to make the most of it, and these are the people who are near me, and so they will become my family."

The problem with fun is we really don't know what fun means at all.

Fun has to do with habitual activities but then also terrifically novel or unusual ones. It works as a sort of strange milkshake of those concepts.