One of the ways that people avoid taking responsibility for their role in their own pain is what I call the BPs - blame and projection.
Iyanla VanzantWe all want to be liked, loved, or needed. That is fine. What is not fine is what we are willing to do to make sure we are liked, or loved or needed. When we make the needs and wants of others a priority in our lives, we devalue ourselves.
Iyanla VanzantWhen you make a decision and a commitment to do something good for yourself, it is like dropping a pebble in a pond. It has a rippling effect. The firmer the decision, the stronger the frequency and wider the range of things that will be reached.
Iyanla Vanzant