You can accept or reject the way you are treated by other people, but until you heal the wounds of your past, you will continue to bleed. You can bandage the bleeding with food, with alcohol, with drugs, with work, with cigarettes, with sex, but eventually, it will all ooze through and stain your life. You must find the strength to open the wounds, stick your hands inside, pull out the core of the pain that is holding you in your past, the memories, and make peace with them.
Iyanla VanzantOne of the ways that people avoid taking responsibility for their role in their own pain is what I call the BPs - blame and projection.
Iyanla VanzantIf you don't like your sister or don't get along with your father, let's find out if you like yourself. Let's not sugarcoat anything about it.
Iyanla VanzantCriticism does not make you smarter or better than the one you are criticizing. In fact, the stuff you are critical of in others is the same stuff you don't like about yourself.
Iyanla VanzantAcceptance means that you know, regardless of what happened, that there is something bigger than you at work. It also means you know that you are okay and that you will continue to be okay.
Iyanla Vanzant