My father never kissed me, hugged me or told me that he loved me. As my only living parent, he became the filter through which I saw myself, the possibilities for my life, the world and all men. He was a conflicted and dark filter.
Iyanla VanzantWhen you don't show up as who you are, people fall in love with who you're not. Then when they find out who you are, that's when they leave.
Iyanla VanzantItโs self-full to be first, to be as good as possible to you. To take care of you, keep you whole and healthy. That doesnโt mean you disregard everything and everyone. But you want to come with your cup full. You know: โMy cup runneth over.โ What comes out of the cup is for yโall. Whatโs in the cup is mine. But Iโve got to keep my cup full.
Iyanla VanzantTrust is not about being comfortable. It is about being willing to move beyond your comfort zone when there is absolutely no evidence you will be supported. Think of it this way. Trust is based on your ability to stand your ground and rely on your own abilities, knowing that no matter what happens, you will be better off than you were in the beginning.
Iyanla Vanzant