One way to eliminate self negating thoughts and behavior is by gaining more understanding through realizing that you cannot force others to see that what you feel is real.
Iyanla VanzantKnow thyself. Accept thyself. Love thyself. No matter what you have done, where you have been, know, accept, and love who you are.
Iyanla VanzantYou know when I was 20 and 30, they were insecurities. Now they're just a new normal. I'm 60 years old, so my expectations of who I am and how I look and how I show up in the world had to shift. Not because I couldn't help it, or not because I did anything wrong, but because I had to get into the natural flow of my being as a woman.
Iyanla Vanzant