Sooner or later, we must all accept the fact that in a relationship, the only person you are dealing with is yourself.
Iyanla VanzantIf you want a real experience of serenity, look for the good. Affirm the good. Acknowledge the good.
Iyanla VanzantHave the courage to speak your mind and tell the truth from a position of love rather than anger or fear, being open to accept the views of others without feeling threatened or defeated, relinquishing the ego's need to be in control by demonstrating the willingness to do whatever it takes to establish peace.
Iyanla VanzantEverything God does is purposeful. And since God is in each of us, each of us has a purpose.
Iyanla VanzantWe live in a society where we're not taught how to deal with our weaknesses and frailties as human beings. We're not taught how to speak to our difficulties and challenges. We're taught the Pythagorean theorem and chemistry and biology and history. We're not taught anger management. We're not taught dissolution of fear and how to process shame and guilt. I've never in my life ever used the Pythagorean theorem!
Iyanla VanzantChanging your life does not always mean that you stop doing certain things. It may mean that you start doing certain other things. What you really want to do is nurture the attitude that you are open to learning more about yourself. Accepting more about yourself. This is what will inspire you to do something new.
Iyanla Vanzant