When you're nice to people, they want to be nice back to you.
Now, when anything 'bad' happens, I remember that everything that ever happens to me has within it the seeds of something better. I look for the upside rather than the downside. I ask myself, 'Where's the greater benefit in this event?'
If you get clear on the what, the how will be taken care of.
To achieve your dreams, work is required. Suffering is optional.
Pay attention to how you are feeling, and keep your compass heading set for JOY!
Don't just sit there (and complain), do something.