I always cringe when a male friend of mine, who's very fixated on women, puts "compatibility" at the top of his list of attributes that he would be looking for in a woman. I would replace compatibility with dialectic.
James EllroyWhereโs your sketch pad?โ I asked. โฆ โI gave that up,โ Kay said. โI wasnโt very good, so I changed my major.โ โTo what?โ โTo pre-med, then psychology, then English lit, then history.โ โI like a woman who knows what she wants.โ Kay smiled. โSo do I, but I donโt know any.
James EllroyI don't have children. I serve the world and I serve God by living as deep within my work as I can, reveling in the language of other times and putting it forth for the world.
James Ellroy