I was lucky that I met the right mentors and teachers at the right moment

I can imagine wanting to work with this ensemble and this company always.

Second, if you're the boss, just because they don't ask doesn't mean your employees don't have needs.

And so, little by little, I gradually divested myself of pretty nearly all of the guest conducting I used to do, because I was at the same time working in the places like the Met, where I could work in this sort of depth.

We found that when people put this issue on the table, it turns out that men acknowledge the issue, and employers and employees can work out solutions just as working mothers do.

It was just that we had this phenomenal honeymoon relationship that just kept on going.

More and more couples are having this negotiation or discussion, but I'm still amazed at the number who aren't and where the cultural norm sort of kicks in and they just assume that mom's got to be the one who stays home, not dad.