I spent a good deal of time going back over my childhood, my midlife, to try to understand who I was. We're supposed to be complete and whole, and you can't be whole if you're trying to be perfect. Doing a life review helped me get over the disease to please.

I found that you're more powerful when talking from your soul.

It's never too late - never too late to start over, never too late to be happy.

As I started getting older, I realized, 'I'm so happy!' I didn't expect this! I wasn't happy when I was young.

This toxic striving for perfection is a female thing. How many men obsess about being perfect? For men, generally, good enough is good enough.

Pay more attention to losing inches than losing pounds.

In my marriages, I'd lost parts of who I was because I was trying to mold myself into what I thought a man wanted me to be.