Gay and lesbian relationships operate on essentially the same principles as heterosexual relationships

The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse predict an ailing marriage: Criticism, Defensiveness, Stonewalling and Contempt. The worst of these is contempt.

When a couple gets to the last stage, one or both partners may have an affair. But an affair is usually a symptom of a dying marriage, not the cause. The end of that marriage could have been predicted long before either spouse strayed.

I liken an affair to the shattering of a Waterford crystal vase. You can glue it back together, but it will never be the same again.

Gay and lesbian relationships operate on essentially the same principles as heterosexual relationships

In order to get to a healthier and more productive place, we need to give up our fear of conflict, turmoil and resistance.

You don't have to be interesting. You have to be interested.