A small wedding is not necessarily one to which very few people are invited. It is one to which the person you are addressing is not invited.
Judith MartinFrom Memorial Day to Labor Day, you may wear white shoes. Not before and not after. As a command, the White Shoe Edict should be clear and simple enough. Do not violate it. In a society in which everything else has become relative, a matter of how it makes you feel, a question between you and your conscience, and an opportunity for you to be really you, this is an absolute.
Judith MartinYou don't want to look too chic at a Washington party or people will think you don't have a job worth losing.
Judith Martin