Research shows that happy people look for opportunity while others see only crises. Surrendering fear is healthy!
Judith OrloffSustaining silence and circumspection are two behaviors that lead to better, healthier outcomes. They are powerful without dominating.
Judith OrloffFixating on the outcome or needing to know all the details of an upcoming event, such as a trip, causes people to be upset when things donโt go their way, overly focused on the future, and unable to bounce back easily. Inflexible people are susceptible to anger, distress, and depression. Surrendered people go with the flow, shrug it off when an unplanned situation happens, and tend to be happier, more lighthearted, and resilient. They remember to exhale during stress.
Judith OrloffPeople who hold on to grudges, insist on being right, and try to change other's minds have a difficult time maintaining healthy, happy relationships. Surrendered people easily forgive. They are open to new ideas, and aren't attached to being "right." As a result, people love working and collaborating with them. Others seek them out as mediators and advisers. They are more laid back and relaxed than their rigid counterparts, which makes them highly valued by others.
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