The first question we usually ask new parents is : โIs it a boy or a girl ?โ. There is a great answer to that one going around : โWe donโt know ; it hasnโt told us yet.โ Personally, I think no question containing โeither/orโ deserves a serious answer, and that includes the question of gender.
Kate BornsteinI love the idea of being without an identity, it gives me a lot of room to play around; but it makes me dizzy, having nowhere to hang my hat.
Kate BornsteinIt doesn't really matter what a person decides to do, or how radically a person plays with gender. What matters, I think, is how aware a person is of the options. How sad for a person to be missing out on some expression of identity, just for not knowing there are options
Kate BornsteinI was a lonely, frightened little fat kid who felt there was something deeply wrong with me because I didn't feel like I was the gender I'd been assigned. I felt there was something wrong with me, something sick and twisted inside me, something very very bad about me. And everything I read backed that up.
Kate Bornstein