God is not attracted to mountaintops or church steeples. God is drawn to suffering, and the dark places it surfaces, which is why sharing pain freely feels very much like love, and may be the same thing. (207)

When people can do something simple to avoid conflict--say, hit a button or unlock a latch--they'll generally do it.

But that's the hardest part of healing.' What?' Realizing there's no one to hate.

But insight doesn't necessarily produce self-control. Sometimes you just see your destructiveness more clearly.

Most of you guys can't see the potential in a nervous breakdown. A real collapse. There's more chance of finding yourself in a major depression than there is in a bottle Prozac.

People react predictably, especially when they don't have time to think.

A jealous husband is an ugly thing.