I was taught that pain is bad.
The primary symptom of a controller is denial, that is I can't see its symptoms in myself.
This is the year of expansion in the Kingdom of God! Tent pegs will span to the north, the south, the east, and the west in the realm of revelation in the dominion of the Kingdom, where you will walk in a greater dimension of the manifestation of the Kingdom for your life!
Intimacy, as I am using it, is sharing my reality with you.
But keep characters in propinquity long enough and a story will always develop a plot.
I remember when I was a little boy my father didn't love me; he couldn't. He loved my older brother but he couldn't love me somehow, at least not in a way I could understand it.