A lot of us have jobs where we need to give people structure but that is different from controlling.
I am six feet tall. I am not supposed to be afraid.
I wrote a book called The Taste of New Wine because I couldn't find a book that talked about the reality of the situation and how we were dishonest and afraid.
I learned that the purpose of the Twelve Steps is to do the will of God.
I was taught that pain is bad.
What happens is that people who are very religious but who are not in touch with reality, cannot be spiritual.