The love of your life won't be the man you end up with, and you'll always compare the two.

You asked why I couldn't forgive you," Nick said, very quietly, and I jumped a little. "It was because you were the love of my life, Harper. And you didn't want to be. That's hard to let go.

Love came when you weren't looking, except in the case of millions who found mates on Match.com, but, hey. It sounded good.

I'll tell you something, Harpy," he said, his voice almost a whisper now. "It never even occurred to me that we wouldn't make it. And it never occurred to you that we would. You were just waiting for us to go down in flames. I thought we could get through anything.

"I don't want to lose you, I love you, and...and that's all I've got." As speeches went, it wasn't great. As feelings went...different story.

Commandment #1: Believe in yourself. Commandment #2: Get over yourself.

Don't ever marry a man who loves his work more than he loves you.