I'm very hard on my bags because I tend to carry a lot of stuff with me.
My parents were divorced and I would spend weekends with my father.
I certainly didn't have a nanny.
I am very lucky, because for the most part people are very nice to me, and I am still able to go about my life and ride the subway and all that.
I hope that anyone I worked with wouldn't exploit our relationship.
Ask "why" until there is no more "why."