People from the most horrendous of childhoods can have good lives, but it comes down to a very seemingly simple word. 'Choice.'
That which is horrifying to you don't do to anybody else.
Women seem not to understand, or underestimate, the profound power they have over their husbands.
We all get self-centered.
You don't go by your feelings. You do what is right.
Remember that feelings or emotions emanate from the more ancient, less evolved, lower part of the human brain, while thoughts are a product of our highly evolved, uniquely human, outer part of the brain.