Introverts keep their best stuff insideโthat is, until it is ready. And this drives extroverts crazy! The explanation for the introvertโs behaviorโand there must be an explanation for this behavior, say the extrovertsโis that he or she is antisocial, out of touch, or simply a snob.
Laurie HelgoeIntrovert conversations are like jazz, where each player gets to solo for a nice stretch before the other player comes in and does his solo. And like jazz, once we get going, we can play all night. Extrovert conversations are more like tennis matches, where thoughts are batted back and forth, and players need to be ready to respond. Introverts get winded pretty quickly.
Laurie HelgoeIntroverts process information internally, and we don't like to express our thoughts until they are fully formed.
Laurie HelgoeOne of the best places for a shy person to meet people is in a coffee shop. If you are a reader, bring a book and read it there - that gives a guy something to ask you about. Same goes for sketching, writing, or any hobby you can take with you.
Laurie Helgoe