Extroverts want us to have fun, because they assume we want what they want. And sometimes we do. But "fun" itself is a "bright" word, the kind of word that comes with flashing lights and an exclamation point! One of Merriam-Webster's definitions of "fun" is "violent or excited activity or argument." The very word makes me want to sit in a dimly lit room with lots of pillows-by myself.

One of the best places for a shy person to meet people is in a coffee shop. If you are a reader, bring a book and read it there - that gives a guy something to ask you about. Same goes for sketching, writing, or any hobby you can take with you.

Introverts process information internally, and we don't like to express our thoughts until they are fully formed.

Introverts like being introverts. We are drawn to ideas, we are passionate observers, and for us, solitude is rich and generative.

Whatever kind of introvert you are, some people will find you 'too much' in some ways and 'not enough' in others.

Introverts paradoxically pull away from culture and create culture.

A good rule of thumb is that any environment that consistently leaves you feeling bad about who you are is the wrong environment.