Introverts tend to internalize problems. In other words, we place the source of problems within and blame ourselves. Though introverts may also externalize and see others as the problem, it's more convenient to keep the problem "in house." Internalizers tend to be reliable and responsible, but we can also be very hard on ourselves.
Laurie HelgoeAmerica is a noisy culture, unlike, say, Finland, which values silence. Individualism, dominant in the U.S. and Germany, promotes the direct, fast-paced style of communication associated with extraversion. Collectivistic societies, such as those in East Asia, value privacy and restraint, qualities more characteristic of introverts.
Laurie HelgoeIf the extrovert is trying to "cheer up" the introvert - extroverts are programmed to seek social rewards! - he or she may feel like a failure if the introvert remains unmoved.
Laurie HelgoeIntroverts keep their best stuff insideโthat is, until it is ready. And this drives extroverts crazy! The explanation for the introvertโs behaviorโand there must be an explanation for this behavior, say the extrovertsโis that he or she is antisocial, out of touch, or simply a snob.
Laurie HelgoeIf the extrovert watches and listens a bit more, the introvert's true mood will become more evident.
Laurie HelgoeIntroverts tend to internalize problems. In other words, we place the source of problems within and blame ourselves. Though introverts may also externalize and see others as the problem, it's more convenient to keep the problem "in house." Internalizers tend to be reliable and responsible, but we can also be very hard on ourselves.
Laurie Helgoe