Research suggests when it comes to understanding our feelings, we humans have an odd mix of low ability and high confidence.

When we are in the grasp of illusion - or, for that matter, whenever we have a new idea - instead of searching for ways to prove our ideas wrong, we usually attempt to prove them correct. Psychologists call this the confirmation bias, and it presents a major impediment of our ability to break free from the misinterpretation of randomness.

That's why successful people in every field are almost universally members of a certain set - the set of people who don't give up.

Social rejection doesn't just cause emotional pain; it affects our physical being.

What I've learned, above all, is to keep marching forward because the best news is that since chance does play a role, one important factor in success is under our control: the number of at bats, the number of chances taken, the number of opportunities seized.

Says Bargh: "We all hold dear idea that we´re the captain of our own sould, and we´re in charge, and it´s a very scary feeling when we are not. In fact, that´s what psychosis is - the feeling of detachment from reality and that you are not in control, and that´s a very frightening feeling for anyone."

Research suggests when it comes to understanding our feelings, we humans have an odd mix of low ability and high confidence.