We feel guilty for what we do. We feel shame for what we are.

The rule is: we cannot really forgive ourselves unless we look at the failure in our past and call it by its right name.

We feel guilty for what we do. We feel shame for what we are.

To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.

Forgiveness is God's invention for coming to terms with a world in which people are unfair to each other and hurt each other deeply. He began by forgiving us. And He invites us all to forgive each other.

Self control is about being in charge of the direction our lives are taking. Now for the paradox: We get control of our lives, ultimately, not by will power but by surrender.

Forgiving is love's toughest work, and love's biggest risk. If you twist it into something it was never meant to be, it can make you a doormat or an insufferable manipulator. Forgiving seems almost unnatural. Our sense of fairness tells us people should pay for the wrong they do. But forgiving is love's power to break nature's rule.