We are most often in the dark when we are the most certain, and the most enlightened when we are the most confused.

If you are determined not to risk pain, then you must do without many things: having children, getting married, the ecstasy of sex, the hope of ambition, friendship-all that makes life alive, meaningful and significant.

Love always requires courage and involves risk.

Self examination is the key to insight, which is the key to wisdom

There is no worse bitterness than to reach the end of your life and realized you have not lived.

Love is the free exercise of choice. Two people love each other only when they are quite capable of living without each other but choose to live with each other.

I gave examples from my clinical practice of how love was not wholly a thought or feeling. I told of how that very evening there would be some man sitting at a bar in the local village, crying into his beer and sputtering to the bartender how much he loved his wife and children while at the same time he was wasting his family's money and depriving them of his attention. We recounted how this man was thinking love and feeling love--were they not real tears in his eyes?--but he was not in truth behaving with love.