A child is not a bargaining chip or a learning tool. Your focus, if you adopt a child of a different race, should be on nurturing and protecting your child from bigotry, not deploying him or her as an anti-racist Mr. Fix-It.

I think that it's a great idea to have honest conversations about children before getting married. I also think it's impossible to promise someone, "What I want right now will never change, and as long as I promise you I do - or don't - want a child - or a specific number of children - before we get married, we will never have to experience fear, anxiety, uncertainty, or the pain of not getting what we want, when we want it.

I don't think it's a requirement that a happy, fulfilling relationship also provide the best sex of all time.

Some struggling marriages can be salvaged with hard work and counseling; others should be dismantled and stripped for parts.

Knowledge of death is the beginning of wisdom.

I don't know of any way to control the subject of one's dreams although I'm fairly certain there are more than a few types of psychoanalysis dedicated to the topic.

Tenancy laws can be so complicated; I want to make sure OP is protected as much as possible.