Someone who has a disability is not necessarily in distress. You may be embarrassing and inconveniencing someone by butting in and making assumptions.
Mallory OrtbergIt's so difficult to figure out how to offer support and also be honest with someone you love who's in a damaging relationship without making them feel defensive and retreating even further into isolation.
Mallory OrtbergIt's OK to tell your partner to objectify you. That's part of the fun of having a partner.
Mallory OrtbergAsexuality does not make our lives any worse or any better, we just face a different set of challenges than most sexual people.
Mallory OrtbergSome people give gifts in order to bewilder, confuse, and manipulate their recipients.
Mallory OrtbergIf your partner asks you if something bothers you, and something bothers you, the best thing you can do is say, "Yes, it bothers me." Otherwise you create a situation where they think everything is fine, continue with the offending behavior, while you build up a secret reservoir of resentment that will eventually come pouring out, to their shock.
Mallory Ortberg