If and when you do decide to share your experience with your husband, it should be because you feel ready to do so, not for any other reason.

Enjoy your relationship with your boyfriend and don't worry about the people or situations you dream about. Once you wake up, they're over; let them go.

Don't let a friend make you feel publicly uncomfortable indefinitely just because they're probably a lesbian.

A child is not a bargaining chip or a learning tool. Your focus, if you adopt a child of a different race, should be on nurturing and protecting your child from bigotry, not deploying him or her as an anti-racist Mr. Fix-It.

Knowledge of death is the beginning of wisdom.

You may not be able to convince everyone around you that you're doing the right thing, but you don't have to subject yourself to endless second-guessing from others, either.

It's OK to tell your partner to objectify you. That's part of the fun of having a partner.