If and when you do decide to share your experience with your husband, it should be because you feel ready to do so, not for any other reason.

If your partner asks you if something bothers you, and something bothers you, the best thing you can do is say, "Yes, it bothers me." Otherwise you create a situation where they think everything is fine, continue with the offending behavior, while you build up a secret reservoir of resentment that will eventually come pouring out, to their shock.

Worrying seems like a fairly natural state of being for a parent, so feel free to worry as much as you want.

Most of us, however committed we are to our ideals, will find ourselves every now and again reading an attention-grabbing headline from the Daily Mail or some other lowest-common denominator. That's not the same thing as frequenting a site like the white supremacist Stormfront.

If and when you do decide to share your experience with your husband, it should be because you feel ready to do so, not for any other reason.

Acting politely in front of someone black and/or gay and then making horrible claims about their intelligence or worth as human beings after they leave the room is not kindness - it's hypocrisy.

Tenancy laws can be so complicated; I want to make sure OP is protected as much as possible.