The mere idea of asking a family member if they intentionally stopped sending me an annual bonus makes me feel like breaking out in hives.

Diapers do not belong on the same table as food.

You have a wonderful opportunity here to not care about something that doesn’t matter to you. Please don’t miss out on it.

As long as you don't think he's just pretending not to mind for your sake, it sounds like he has truly accepted that blow jobs are too difficult and painful for you to perform, and he's still very satisfied with your sex life. Take him at his word.

Tenancy laws can be so complicated; I want to make sure OP is protected as much as possible.

If and when you do decide to share your experience with your husband, it should be because you feel ready to do so, not for any other reason.

I'm of the belief that dating "potential" is almost always an exercise in frustration.