If your partner asks you if something bothers you, and something bothers you, the best thing you can do is say, "Yes, it bothers me." Otherwise you create a situation where they think everything is fine, continue with the offending behavior, while you build up a secret reservoir of resentment that will eventually come pouring out, to their shock.

Unlike celibacy, which people choose, asexuality is an intrinsic part of who we are.

You need to be able to express your resentment and sense of loss in a way that doesn't damage your partner.

If someone you know is diagnosed with cancer, give them a call or send them a letter to tell them how sorry you are and to let them know how much you care.

If you don't like potlucks, the solution to your problem is "don't go to potlucks," not "insist other people don't have them."

You have a wonderful opportunity here to not care about something that doesn’t matter to you. Please don’t miss out on it.

I'm of the opinion that it is always a kind and appropriate decision to get in touch with someone who's lost a loved one to remind them that you're thinking of them and have fond memories of the deceased.