If your partner asks you if something bothers you, and something bothers you, the best thing you can do is say, "Yes, it bothers me." Otherwise you create a situation where they think everything is fine, continue with the offending behavior, while you build up a secret reservoir of resentment that will eventually come pouring out, to their shock.
Mallory OrtbergIf you go out with someone and decide you don't want to see them again, do them the courtesy of saying, "Hey, I had a nice time, but I don't think things are going to work out between us." Only you can help fight ghosting.
Mallory Ortbergo one is right when it comes to destination weddings. Itโs a big ask, requesting people take time off work and fly off to take a cruise just to see you get married, and theyโre perfectly justified in saying no if they donโt have the time, the money, or simply the inclination.
Mallory OrtbergSo many people choose silence after the immediate wake of a death out of fear of saying something out of turn or "bringing up bad memories" that bereaved people often feel forgotten.
Mallory OrtbergSome people give gifts in order to bewilder, confuse, and manipulate their recipients.
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