Don't beat yourself up over what you dream about.

Tenancy laws can be so complicated; I want to make sure OP is protected as much as possible.

Some struggling marriages can be salvaged with hard work and counseling; others should be dismantled and stripped for parts.

You who have suffered so much do not want to be with the kind of person who makes "black widow" jokes to deal with an uncomfortable, painful moment. You should be with a person capable of great compassion and understanding.

Five-foot-8 is a perfectly normal height for a woman - it's slightly but not at all unusually tall and certainly shouldn't be causing you any torment.

Most of us, however committed we are to our ideals, will find ourselves every now and again reading an attention-grabbing headline from the Daily Mail or some other lowest-common denominator. That's not the same thing as frequenting a site like the white supremacist Stormfront.

"Not being virulently and overtly racist against black people" and "treating gay people like human beings" are necessary conditions of greatness.