Some struggling marriages can be salvaged with hard work and counseling; others should be dismantled and stripped for parts.
Mallory OrtbergI don't think it's a requirement that a happy, fulfilling relationship also provide the best sex of all time.
Mallory OrtbergIf this is something you'd truly like to work on, not out of a sense of guilt but because you would enjoy occasionally reciprocating, there are a wealth of resources out there for the enthusiastic amateur (you are far from the only would-be blow-jobber whose spirit is willing but gag reflex is weak). You have more options than "no blow jobs, ever" and "regular whole-hog sessions to completion that result in vomiting."
Mallory Ortberg