It's always considered bad taste to comment on a tragedy right when it's happening, but I love when something is considered too soon to talk about because then you can blast past that social censorship to get into something real.
Margaret ChoSexual fulfillment goals, to make them happen, you have to work on them as a project. I don't think it's a bad thing.
Margaret ChoI'm a survivor. But I'm also victim, too. Surviving has the connotation that you've been through it, you lived through it and that's wonderful - but a victim is what I was. "Survivor" is the more healing way to look at it.
Margaret Cho