These days we don’t have to fit into something other people think we are. We’ve leveled the playing field, life is inclusive. I’m a mom, sex detective, wife, fearless, gentle — we can now, with grace, be all of what we are.

Just having someone make you laugh so hard that it hurts is so healing to me.

Yes. I did more research than I ever wanted to and saw some things I wish I didn't. I went on ride-alongs, spent time with Homicide, Cold Case, and SVU detectives, hung out in subways learning how to spot pervs and pick-pockets, viewed an autopsy, went to a police firing range, and witnessed court cases and I read, read, read.

If I can play a little part in the world's healing, and making it a better place than when I came, then I just thank God for that chance.

Adoption was a bumpy ride - very bumpy. But, God, was it worth the fight.

Sometimes things in life happen that allow us to understand our priorities very clearly. Ultimately you can see those as gifts.

Healing takes time, and asking for help is a courageous step.