Turn your 'problems' into 'challenges' and you will suddenly see results in a more positive light.
We find what we are looking for.
Savor the wanting as much as the having.
Do exactly the opposite of what the sheep are doing in order to become the Shepherd.
To yourself you are what you think. To the outside world, you are what you do.
You simply cannot blame anyone or anything for causing you to be, think or respond in a certain way.