The effect of emotional venting is to sustain an unsatisfactory status quo. Most people think the opposite, that complaining is part of an effort to change an unsatisfying situation. Nope. Complaining lets off pressure so that we neither explode with frustration nor feel compelled to take the often risky steps of openly opposing a difficult person or situation. Keeping emotional pressure tolerably low doesn't change problematic circumstances but rather perpetuates them.

Angels come in many shapes and sizes, and most of them are not invisible.

When making a decision, focus on what feels "shackles off" versus "shackles on".

When you're weary, find relief. When you're strong, find delight.

Every day brings new choices.

Learning to let go of expectations is a ticket to peace. It allows us to ride over every crisis—small or large, brother-in-law or end-of-quarter office lockdown—like a beach ball on water. The next time a problem arises in your life, take a deep breath, let out a sigh, and replace the thought Oh no! with the thought Okay.

Good-looking individuals are treated better than homely ones in virtually every social situation, from dating to trial by jury.