We are not what we know but what we are willing to learn.

When any relationship is characterized by difference, particularly a disparity in power, there remains a tendency to model it on the parent-child-relationship. Even protectiveness and benevolence toward the poor, toward minorities, and especially toward women have involved equating them with children.

The family is changing not disappearing. We have to broaden our understanding of it, look for the new metaphors.

Often continuity is visible only in retrospect.

Traditionally in American society, men have been trained for both competition and teamwork through sports, while women have been reared to merge their welfare with that of the family, with fewer opportunities for either independence or other team identifications, and fewer challenges to direct competition. In effect, women have been circumscribed within that unit where the benefit of one is most easily believed to be the benefit of all.

Solutions to problems often depend upon how they're defined.

In many ways, constancy is an illusion.