The protected place in space and time that we once called childhood has grown shorter.

we are a small, interconnected world; that we are all safe or none of us are; that we are all well cared for or all at risk.

Traditionally parents have wondered what their teens were doing, but now teens are much more likely to be doing things that can get them killed.

How many therapists does it take to change a lightbulb? One, as long as the lightbulb wants to change.

When one of us tells the truth, he makes it easier for all of us to open our hearts to our pain and that of others.

Many young women are less whole and androgynous than they were at age ten. They are more appearance-conscious and sex-conscious. They are quieter, more fearful of holding strong opinions, more careful what they say and less honest. They are more likely to second-guess themselves and to be self-critical. They are bigger worriers and more effective people pleasers. They are less likely to play sports, love math and science and plan on being president. They hide their intelligence. Many must fight for years to regain all the territory they lost.

True freedom has more to do with following the North Star than going whichever way the wind blows. Sometimes it seems like freedom is blowing with the winds of the day, but that kind of freedom is really an illusion. It turns your boat in circles. Freedom is sailing toward your dreams.