Be patient with yourself. Don't make the loss harder by thinking you should be a certain way, or have bounced back, etc.
Meghan O'RourkeOne of the difficulties with grief research is that it risks making certain kinds of grief seem normal and others abnormal - and of course having a sense of the contours of grief is, I think, truly useful, one has to remember it's not a science, it's an individual reckoning, which science is just trying to help us describe.
Meghan O'RourkeMany Americans don't mourn in public anymore - we don't wear black, we don't beat our chests and wail.
Meghan O'RourkeIt's a blessing not to be alone in your grief but it's also painful to see your parents and siblings in pain.
Meghan O'Rourke