A death from a long illness is very different from a sudden death. It gives you time to say goodbye and time to adjust to the idea that the beloved will not be with you anymore.
Meghan O'RourkeMuch of Hamlet is about the precise kind of slippage the mourner experiences: the difference between being and seeming, the uncertainty about how the inner translates into the outer, the sense that one is expected to perform grief palatably. (If you donโt seem sad, people worry; but if you are grief-stricken, people flinch away from your pain.)
Meghan O'RourkeIt's a blessing not to be alone in your grief but it's also painful to see your parents and siblings in pain.
Meghan O'RourkeThere is always tension in women's gymnastics between athleticism, grace, performance, and eros.
Meghan O'Rourke