...Help me let go of my need to stay immersed in negativity. I can change the energy in myself and my environment from negaยญtive to positive. I will affirm the good until it sinks in and feels real. I will also strive to find one quality that I like about someone else who's important to me, and I will take the risk of telling him or her that.
Melody BeattieIf we are unhappy without a relationship, we'll probably be unhappy with one as well. A relationship doesn't begin our life; a relationship doesn't become our life. A relationship is a continuation of life.
Melody BeattieBoundaries emerge from deep within. They are connected to letting go of guilt and shame, and to changing our beliefs about what we deserve. As our thinking about this becomes clearer, so will our boundaries. Boundaries are also connected to a Higher Timing than our own. Weโll set a limit when weโre ready, and not a moment before. So will others. Thereโs something magical about reaching that point of becoming ready to set a limit. We know we mean what we say; others take us seriously too. Things change, not because weโre controlling others, but because weโve changed.
Melody BeattieGuilt can prevent us from setting the boundaries that would be in our best interests, and in other peoples best interests.
Melody BeattieGratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.
Melody BeattieLetting go means we stop trying to force outcomes and make people behave. It means we give up resistance to the way things are, for the moment. It means we stop trying to do the impossible-controlling that which we cannot-and instead, focus on what is possible-which usually means taking care of ourselves. And we do this in gentleness, kindness, and love, as much as possible.
Melody Beattie