We expect him to take up a lot of space in his gangly experiments with life, and we teach him, through task, work, game, activity, and experience how to use that space. Above all, we give him mentoring and supervision that respects and teaches his gifts, his visions, even his shadowy inner demons
Michael GurianIf Huck Finn or Tom Sawyer were alive today, weโd say they had ADD or a conduct disorder. They [boys] are who they are, and we need to love them for who they are. Letโs not try to rewire them.
Michael GurianThe human community and individual people are more likely to hurt or undernourish children they think of as 'bodies' to be used. Cultures and people are more likely to raise children to be mere economic interns rather than fully developed humans if they see children as 'bodies' to be forced into certain economic and social molds.
Michael GurianMaking fun of guys to get them to perform and prove themselves, that's always going to exist. But we have to equally celebrate them and empower them.
Michael GurianSoul development depends on attachment and bonding. Every brain and body is genetically wired to develop itself, but the full soul development of brain and body depends on each child receiving the care of between two and five completely bonded caregivers.
Michael GurianThe quickest way to create a boy or man who lacks compassion is to judge and shame his feelings.
Michael GurianWe expect him to take up a lot of space in his gangly experiments with life, and we teach him, through task, work, game, activity, and experience how to use that space. Above all, we give him mentoring and supervision that respects and teaches his gifts, his visions, even his shadowy inner demons
Michael Gurian