If we want boys to succeed, we need to bring them back to education by making education relevant to them and bring in more service learning and vocational education.

Our youth want less adult contact if that co ntacttreats them like boys. They want more adult contact that treats them like young men. Tired as they are of the former, they are hungry for the latter

Most teachers are not trained in how boys and girls learn differently.

There is no single way to educate.

As Carl Jung once said, 'When an inner situation is not made conscious, it appears outside as fate.' When our boys become adults, we become their inner situation. We become inner voices they often hear in their work, relationships and spiritual practice.

The boy and the man must be raised to see the possibility of self worth, then meet a few others who provide the vision of a road toward it, then spend a lifetime pursing that worth through action and relationship. One of the great tragedies in human life is to be born a male and not be guided toward the value of a man.

The quickest way to create a boy or man who lacks compassion is to judge and shame his feelings.