Many guys see relationships with women as a zero-sum game: If she wins, he loses. Marriage is the ultimate contest: Her job is to get him to capitulate to marriage. So many men see marriage as the "end of freedom," the end of boyhood. That's why bachelor parties are supposed to revel in that boyish irresponsibility "one last time." So many guys figure, "Why rush into something that means basically that you'll be a prisoner forever?"

The privilege of privilege is that the terms of privilege are rendered invisible. It is a luxury not to have to think about race, or class, or gender. Only those marginalized by some category understand how powerful that category is when deployed against them.

Feminism loves men enough to expect them to act more honorably and actually believes them capable of doing so.

White men in North America are the beneficiaries of the single biggest affirmative action program in world history. It's called world history.

Some of the worst elements of Guyland rest on the twin pillars of men's silence and women's compliance.

The pull of Guyland reminds us that women cannot accomplish this transformation alone. In the book's final chapter I argue that just as men need to stand up, do the right thing and break the silence that perpetuates Guyland, so, too, do women need to support each other in resisting its pull.

Ironically, survey after survey shows that married men are happier and healthier than unmarried men. Oh, and they also have more sex.