Many guys see relationships with women as a zero-sum game: If she wins, he loses. Marriage is the ultimate contest: Her job is to get him to capitulate to marriage. So many men see marriage as the "end of freedom," the end of boyhood. That's why bachelor parties are supposed to revel in that boyish irresponsibility "one last time." So many guys figure, "Why rush into something that means basically that you'll be a prisoner forever?"
Michael KimmelWhite men in North America are the beneficiaries of the single biggest affirmative action program in world history. It's called world history.
Michael KimmelThe pull of Guyland reminds us that women cannot accomplish this transformation alone. In the book's final chapter I argue that just as men need to stand up, do the right thing and break the silence that perpetuates Guyland, so, too, do women need to support each other in resisting its pull.
Michael KimmelWhite men in Europe and the US are the beneficiaries of the single greatest affirmative action program in the history of the world; it is called the history of the world.
Michael KimmelSome of the worst elements of Guyland rest on the twin pillars of men's silence and women's compliance.
Michael KimmelI think there is another choice for women; it involves challenging Guyland and supporting each other.
Michael KimmelGuys constantly talk about pornography in two ways: as revenge and as reassurance. When you live in a world in which beautiful, sexy women are all around you, in the same classes, on the same athletic field, competing for the same jobs, then the pornographic world - the world in which women thrill to male sexual desire - reassures men that although they may feel "one down," they're still entitled to women's bodies.
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