I think there is another choice for women; it involves challenging Guyland and supporting each other.

The privilege of privilege is that the terms of privilege are rendered invisible. It is a luxury not to have to think about race, or class, or gender. Only those marginalized by some category understand how powerful that category is when deployed against them.

We have the data to prove to men that gender equality is not a zero-sum game, but a win-win.

It's like what you might call Goldilocks' dilemma in the old fairy tale. Young men see women as "less than" or "better than," but never their equals. And studies indicate that equality is the best foundation for a healthy relationship.

The pull of Guyland reminds us that women cannot accomplish this transformation alone. In the book's final chapter I argue that just as men need to stand up, do the right thing and break the silence that perpetuates Guyland, so, too, do women need to support each other in resisting its pull.

Ironically, survey after survey shows that married men are happier and healthier than unmarried men. Oh, and they also have more sex.

Some of the worst elements of Guyland rest on the twin pillars of men's silence and women's compliance.