White men in North America are the beneficiaries of the single biggest affirmative action program in world history. It's called world history.

Feminism loves men enough to expect them to act more honorably and actually believes them capable of doing so.

And few hookups, if any, ever take place sober. And while wearing "beer goggles" may make people appear more attractive, it doesn't exactly make for sexual ecstasy! There's always been a difference between pleasure and scoring.

Many guys see relationships with women as a zero-sum game: If she wins, he loses. Marriage is the ultimate contest: Her job is to get him to capitulate to marriage. So many men see marriage as the "end of freedom," the end of boyhood. That's why bachelor parties are supposed to revel in that boyish irresponsibility "one last time." So many guys figure, "Why rush into something that means basically that you'll be a prisoner forever?"

Ironically, survey after survey shows that married men are happier and healthier than unmarried men. Oh, and they also have more sex.

We have the data to prove to men that gender equality is not a zero-sum game, but a win-win.

The privilege of privilege is that the terms of privilege are rendered invisible. It is a luxury not to have to think about race, or class, or gender. Only those marginalized by some category understand how powerful that category is when deployed against them.