White men in North America are the beneficiaries of the single biggest affirmative action program in world history. It's called world history.

Many guys see relationships with women as a zero-sum game: If she wins, he loses. Marriage is the ultimate contest: Her job is to get him to capitulate to marriage. So many men see marriage as the "end of freedom," the end of boyhood. That's why bachelor parties are supposed to revel in that boyish irresponsibility "one last time." So many guys figure, "Why rush into something that means basically that you'll be a prisoner forever?"

We have the data to prove to men that gender equality is not a zero-sum game, but a win-win.

The good news is that women's roles have changed so dramatically over the past three decades that women now expect to have careers, balance work and family, express their individual autonomy.

Young men are eager to "hook up" with women. And many say they have very good female friends. But some of the emotions circulating among guys make it difficult to form and sustain healthy relationships.

Some of the worst elements of Guyland rest on the twin pillars of men's silence and women's compliance.

White men in North America are the beneficiaries of the single biggest affirmative action program in world history. It's called world history.